Brian and I were flipping through channels the other day when a movie caught his attention. It was one of those "dumb funny" ones. The kind that you roll your eyes at most of the time, but find yourself laughing at the most ridiculous things. The back story was about this guy that was adopted and he was out searching for his biological parents. The phrase that kept being tossed around was, "They gave you up for adoption." This sparked a conversation between Brian and I. When I hear "give up" I think that they literally gave up on the child.
I understand, in some cases, this is true. Some birth-moms leave their child on a doorstep, or in the hospital, or they just don't take care of them so the child is taken from them. So, I guess this phrase would be more appropriate. But in our case.....this is NOT true. I prefer to say that Daylen was placed for adoption. He was literally placed in my arms by his birth-mom. She cried as she said good-bye. She searched for a family that would love and care for him. So, NO she didn't GIVE HIM UP.....She loving PLACED him.
Yes it is a small phrase and one that is overlooked most of the time. But it is a phrase I will NEVER use around my son! I will always explain to him that his birth-mom carried him for 9 months, delivered him and then placed him in my arms in adoption. I do not want him to ever have the feeling of being abandoned or left or gave up on. I want him to KNOW that he us PLACED LOVINGLY!
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